It's tough to see your parents get older. Tough. I see it every day in both of mine. When my brother-in-law had to come over early last year (before dad broke his kneecap), to haul dad up off the utility room floor, I stated it thusly:
"Dad, you and mom need to be more vigilant about what you are doing; where you are, what is around you, how you are doing things. Neither of you are 40 anymore and haven't been in quite some time."
"I think I just realized that."
That is tough.
What is hard is being almost 70 years old. You don't want to see your older brothers name show up on the caller ID because:
a) he is in Kansas
b) the only time he calls is if it has to do with their mom.
Mom is in a place where she isn't sure what to do. Hospice RN gives grandma from today to three weeks from now. She just turned 95 and isn't in the best of shape. Fiesty yet, her body is just worn down & out. Mom & dad aren't briming with money, and neither are us kids. It'd be one thing if sis wasn't taking care of her grandson and I had a husband in pre-transplant phase. If things were different, I'd clean out my car and we'd marathon drive to Garden City, Kansas.
I want mom to go. She needs to be able to spend whatever precious time is left with grandma. Granted, grandma keeps calling my uncle "Johnny" (or Papa) who passed on 7 years ago, but dad got time with his mom before she passed away, mom should have that opportunity as well.
That may be my sticking point on being out of state. I want to be no more than seven hours driving in the case of my parents. I cannot fathom not being able to be Right. There. If I were rich, i would send her, first class, with accommodations paid for so she wouldn't have to worry.
Other than monitor some cigarette portioning, I have nothing more to give her than a shoulder.
Mindy, about to lose last remaining grandparent.
Wednesday, June 16, 2010
Wednesday, June 2, 2010
Today...
Today: rain with a chance of showers. Tomorrow: Showers with a chance of rain.
I need to put that on facebook.
I don't mind rain. I mind it when:
1) The dog decides she doesn't want to get wet and pees on the top step.
2) The grass definately needs livestock now.
3) I have outdoor things to do and can't do them.
4) The cats need fresh air and there is no where to set them outside in their cages where they won't be playing Noah's Ark.
Why couldn't we get this when we were supposed to get it--not now that we are on the way to Summer?
Mindy with webbed feet & hands
I need to put that on facebook.
I don't mind rain. I mind it when:
1) The dog decides she doesn't want to get wet and pees on the top step.
2) The grass definately needs livestock now.
3) I have outdoor things to do and can't do them.
4) The cats need fresh air and there is no where to set them outside in their cages where they won't be playing Noah's Ark.
Why couldn't we get this when we were supposed to get it--not now that we are on the way to Summer?
Mindy with webbed feet & hands
Tuesday, June 1, 2010
Reconnection
I've been debating.
On FB, I recently reconnected with three of my friends from school. I cannot begin to say how excited I am about this. Primarily because I have one friend I have kept in continuous contact with since high school. I see her about once every three/four months. Things & people change and she lives in Seattle now--not the far away, but not just up the road, either.
I admit that I let things drop. I hate communicating via telephone. My guess is that if you drug me to some therapist, I would probably qualify for phone phobia, whatever nifty scientific name it may be. Probably also why I couldn't hack working Hell-Tech (TeleTech).
What is funny is that I found a former class mate. They lived up the road from me from about second grade to about seventh. One girl was in my class and I was pretty good friends with her. I got along with all her sisters, actually, sans the youngest because she was the youngest and didn't go to school. The next to youngest was particularly sweet.
I ran across her journal and have seriously thought about sending her a note. It just seems so weird since I haven't seen her in like 25 years. I'm still debating about it but here is the crux.
I need to reconnect because as it stands now, my friends via the church, are all my mothers age. While this is fine and I don't mind, I also crave the need to mingle with those my age or close to it, as well. I've shut myself off sometimes horribly because I enjoy solitude (yeah, that is probably why some at DVR would claim I sucked as a counselor---bullshit!!)
So I've been debating on how to go about it. I would love to reconnect with her. She still seems to be the sweet person she always was. I just wonder...
Mindy, legend of the seeker
On FB, I recently reconnected with three of my friends from school. I cannot begin to say how excited I am about this. Primarily because I have one friend I have kept in continuous contact with since high school. I see her about once every three/four months. Things & people change and she lives in Seattle now--not the far away, but not just up the road, either.
I admit that I let things drop. I hate communicating via telephone. My guess is that if you drug me to some therapist, I would probably qualify for phone phobia, whatever nifty scientific name it may be. Probably also why I couldn't hack working Hell-Tech (TeleTech).
What is funny is that I found a former class mate. They lived up the road from me from about second grade to about seventh. One girl was in my class and I was pretty good friends with her. I got along with all her sisters, actually, sans the youngest because she was the youngest and didn't go to school. The next to youngest was particularly sweet.
I ran across her journal and have seriously thought about sending her a note. It just seems so weird since I haven't seen her in like 25 years. I'm still debating about it but here is the crux.
I need to reconnect because as it stands now, my friends via the church, are all my mothers age. While this is fine and I don't mind, I also crave the need to mingle with those my age or close to it, as well. I've shut myself off sometimes horribly because I enjoy solitude (yeah, that is probably why some at DVR would claim I sucked as a counselor---bullshit!!)
So I've been debating on how to go about it. I would love to reconnect with her. She still seems to be the sweet person she always was. I just wonder...
Mindy, legend of the seeker
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